Sunday, October 30, 2011

Why are we getting married so young?

Adam loves Christian Rap music, I personally do not. I guess this is just one of the many things we will have to compromise on when we get married! An artist that Adam listens to is Trip Lee. Just like Adam and I, Trip Lee got married very young. He recently wrote about this topic on his blog. Adam sent the article to me and I was blown away. It reminds me of our relationship and journey in every way. We have been asked several times, "Why are you getting married so young?" or "Do you really think y'all are ready for marriage?" Trip Lee answers these questions in his blog. I wanted to repost his blog on my blog to share it with all my readers!

Trip Lee writes...

Yesterday I made a late night stop at the store to grab a few things and I had a very interesting conversation with the cashier. We made small talk as she scanned my items, and then she offered me a discount card but I told her my wife already had one. That’s when the conversation got fun. I know this conversation all too well because I’ve had it many times before. It goes something like this…
Person: What!? You’re married?
Me: Yeah I’ve been married for two and a half amazing years.
Person: How old are you? You look like a baby.
Me: I’m twenty three.
Person: You’re so young! Why in the world would you do that?
Me: Why wouldn’t I?
In 2009, I got married at the barely legal and barely respectable age of twenty one years old. During my courtship, engagement, and short marriage, I’ve been asked time and time again questions like, “Why get married so young? What’s the rush?”, and my personal favorite, “You should have waited and enjoyed your life!”
Some of the folks asking these questions were strangers, but some were family. Was I crazy to get married at such a “young” age?
Well let me give you three reasons I decided to get married when I did.
1. I met a godly woman
As an eighteen year-old freshman in Bible college, I wasn’t actively looking for a wife, but God saw fit to introduce me to a young woman after his heart. She was beautiful, but more importantly she loved Jesus. She was aware that she was a sinner in need of God’s grace, and she had a humble, teachable heart. We ended up being part of the same church, so I got to watch her serve, grow, and faithfully give her time to others. I began to talk to my inner circle about her. My friends, mentors, and pastors all agreed - she is a beast! I could see myself walking with her and loving her for the rest of my life.
2. I was ready
By this time I began to think about the reality of marriage and what it means to commit yourself to someone for a lifetime. I asked myself whether or not I was mature and responsible enough. I searched through the Scriptures and thought about the responsibilities of a husband, and talked to married friends and mentors. After lots of prayer and conversation, my mentors and the pastors in my church told me they thought I was ready to pursue her. I was like, “Amen!” But I would not have pursued her if I thought I was not prepared to spiritually lead her, provide for her, and to be the head of a family.
3. Marriage is a blessing
At first I felt like I had to prove to the naysayers that getting married young is ok sometimes. But when I looked in the Scriptures I didn’t find stuff like, “Marriage equals death! Flee from it!” or, “Put marriage off until you can’t put it off any longer,” or, “Only get married when you’re too old to enjoy life,” or, “Play the field for a while and then pick the best one.”
Instead I found commands like, “Flee youthful lust”, and I read passages like Proverbs18:22 that says, “He who finds a wife finds a good thing and obtains favor from the LORD.”
So when people say, “What possessed you to get married so young?” my new response is, “You’re asking the wrong question.” I think at the root of that question is the assumption that marriage steals something away from me, as if my youth is being wasted in committed sacrificial love when it could be used for casual pleasure and flakiness.
Marriage is a beautiful gift from God! It is a means of grace. I found a wife, and that is a good thing. I don’t agree with the logic that says, put off God’s richest blessings as long as you can. Instead I would say enjoy God’s good gifts and steward them for His glory.
This is not to say that everyone should get married when I did. It would have gone bad if I would have tried to get married before I was ready. Some of us do need to mature more, and others of us need to pray for contentment and trust the Lord and His timing. My goal is not to say that the younger you get married, the more holy you are. I just want to dispel the myth that we should delay adulthood and we should only consider marriage when we are thirty and older.
No Regrets
Last night on twitter someone asked me if I regret getting married so young. My answer? Absolutely not.
It’s one of the best decisions I ever made. I’m happier and holier than I was two and a half years ago, and that’s a good thing. I don’t want to make it seem like I’m some super rare anomaly. I know plenty of folks who got married just as young or younger than me. They too saw marriage as a gift and they’ve seen the fruit of that gift. Me and my wife may be young now, but I’m praying for grace to love my wife well until the end of our lives. Until then I want to obey the wisdom of the Proverbs and “rejoice in the wife of my youth.”

Sunday, October 16, 2011

Best Friends and Bridesmaids

I just sent out this card to the eight girls I want/need standing right there beside me on our special day. I could not imagine life without them. They are my best friends, sisters, encouragers, advice givers, they let me know when I do something dumb and cheer me on through big events. Some I have known since birth and some I met in college. I love each of you so much and am honored to have y'all with me!

I think I can speak for Adam when it comes to this subject. His groomsmen are Godly men who mentor him and teach him new and different things all the time. These people have been with us through good and bad. We love you all so much! Thank you for sharing and standing beside us on our wedding day.

Wednesday, October 12, 2011

Wedding Updates

Wedding planning has quickly jumped to the top of my to do list and I could not be more thrilled. I am so excited for what is to come. In a little over 7 months I will be Mrs. Adam Tait (can you believe it?). I am trying not to count down the days, atleast not yet. I want to enjoy this stage and not just be in a constant count down. Now don't get me wrong, I absolutely can not wait for that day but I also want to enjoy where we are in our lives right now!

I am going to try and blog several times about wedding details before the Big Day! I want to be able to look back and remember the days of wedding planning. I will try my hardest not to turn this into all things wedding but you may just have to bare with me for a few months!

Adam was out of town this past weekend so that gave me the perfect opportunity to head home on Friday afternoon! As soon as I got home my mom and I started flipping through magazines, books and making decisions on some other things. I had so much fun with her! My Yvonne (she is my Godmother, also can be called another Grandmother) came over Saturday night and we did the same thing. I enjoyed being home so much! I got to share my excitment with two of my best friends and some of my family who was not able to make it to Mobile the night of the engagement!

We have set a date: May 26, 2012 at 4:00 pm. We will be getting married and having the reception at Dauphin Way Baptist Church in Mobile, AL. Our good friend, Mat Alexander, will be preaching the wedding. Kozy Kutz Florist, from my hometown, will be doing all the flowers, (So excited to work with you Katie. We are going to have so much fun!). Selena Adams, will be the wedding coordinator/director. We have a meeting in two weeks with a photographer. Wendy Wilson is a local photographer from here in Mobile. I have heard great things about her and her work. From what I have seen she takes great pictures. Go check her website out,

I still have many, many things to do and decide but this is a start. Thank you so much for all the sweet comments! We truly have the best family and friends anyone could ask for!

Sunday, October 2, 2011

We Are Engaged!

Adam popped the question on Saturday and of course I said YES! We are so excited and blessed to be at this stage in our lives. Here are a few pictures from the night! 
Our first picture as an engaged couple! 
This was right after he asked the big question! 

All my sweet friends came to celebrate!!

After we took a million pictures at my house Adam said he had one more surprise!
Little did I know he had arranged for his whole family and my whole family to be waiting
downtown at Wintzell's!! 

Here a just a few snapshots from the night!!

Johanna flew in for the occasion! Love you so much!

Thanks to everyone who made the night so special.
We are excited to see what God has in store for us!