Wednesday, June 12, 2013

Hardest Moments {Link Up}

It is Link Up day! I am excited to share, along with these other sweet ladies, the hardest moments of the first year of marriage.

If you are engaged, or married, we invite you to write on the topics with us and link up your posts. It doesn't matter if you are engaged and planning your big day, are a newlywed, or if you have been married 25 years... All the marital advice contributed, all the better for everyone involved! 


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Today's Topic

Hardest Moments From The First Year


With every great thing, also comes obstacles. Marriage is great. I have spent the last year of my life with my best friend. Truly, JAT is a prime example of God's grace in my life. I, by no means, deserve to be blessed with the man God gave me. But he saw fit and I am forever grateful. 

I would be lying if I said the first year of marriage was all roses and smiles. It was not, but it is not as bad as the world makes it out to be. Everyone says that the first year is the hardest, I am not sure if I agree. Yes, we had hard moments but we also had moments full of happiness, and those definitely out weigh the bad. JAT and I are very blessed to do life together. We moved into the marriage transition smoothly. Our "hard moments" are probably not even considered "hard moments" to some.

Top 5 Hardest Moments


 1... DISHWASHER. Currently, we are renting a house and we don't have a dishwasher. This my friend may top all other hard moments from our first year.We now both hate washing dishes. IT IS DREADFUL. We have quickly learned that paper products are our friend and it's ok not to use your dishes every day.

2... Another hard moment from the first year was simply mixing two separate lives together. We both grew up watching our families do different things. Then, when the time came for us to do those things together, we each did them differently. Even down to the little things like folding towels and washing dishes.

3... A moment, that I would call challenging, in our first year of marriage was/is communication (this is more my fault). JAT will tell ya that I have a hard time expressing what I am feeling. On a normal day, I will not "let you know" what's up with me. It drives him crazy. I have learned that I HAVE to communicate. If something is bothering/worrying me I need to let him know.
4... Something that I also struggled with during our first year is being content. I blogged about it a little here. I am a planner by nature. I like to know what is coming next and I look forward to those things. God has truly taught me to be content with where we are and what we are doing. 
5... us 5 years old if you want  (we act like it sometimes), but one thing that was surprisingly hard was thinking in terms of two. I know, it seems easy but when you go from I to WE it can, sometimes, be down right hard. JAT and I can no longer think about self or what is best for just me. We both have to make decisions on what would be best for our FAMILY.

When thinking back on the hard moments in our first year I find myself counting my many, many blessings.

I am already finding that the second year is sweeter!


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  1. Hey girl! So I thought I was following you already and it turns out... I wasn't!! And I'm involved with this link up! So I wanted to apologize!

    Also- I cannot believe how very similar we are. My husband and I have lived without a dishwasher for 3 years now... and you wanna bet what was top on my list for when we decided we were moving? YEAH! A dishwasher! Not having one seriously created a lot of the fight we had our first year... yet I didn't even think to mention it in my post!

    And-- I am a planner too. I own a planner.. and probably 2 or 3 different calendars. I have my weekends planned out on the Monday before. I like to look forward to plans too... that is how I get through my work week! So, when I married Scott... I already knew that he wasn't the "planning" type... but MAN... he really enjoys being spontaneous or having days where we don't do a darn thing. Which is fine sometimes, but other times it drives me nuts because I feel like we need plans. Anyway.. that was hard to get used to and live with.

    I just adored this post. Such honesty, and we are so alike! =D

  2. I'm with you Maggie, the first year wasn't all that hard!

    And I can definitely relate with you on some of these hard things, not the dishwasher one though man I would be an unhappy camper!!

  3. Your pictures are absolutely stunning! We have been super blessed with the men the Lord has placed in our lives! I am so thankful you are involved with our link-up!